I have been thinking about my friends over at The Treat today. I had an experience where I was really bothered by someone else’s actions. I started the day with the clear mindset that that everything happening in this person’s life was a result of their decisions. I am where I am in life, not because I have been lucky but because of the decisions I have made for myself. Sometimes they aren’t great and I pay the price.
I remember in high school I dated a guy who seemed to always be struggling because he lost his job, he couldn’t pay for his car or senior trip, or he was fighting with parents because they refused to fund the trip he could no longer afford. The advice his step-dad gave me was wise and one thing he said still sticks in my mind many years later; “The problems in his life are self-inflicted.” I get it now. I get that the decisions that he made led him down his own path and I couldn’t take care of him and fix his mistakes to make his life better. I couldn’t fund his trip because what would he learn from that? That I would be there to bail him out and he didn’t need to work on seeking employment and earning an income of his own?
So when I recently got all riled up and I had to step back and think about my friends at The Treat because they have experienced a seriously negative thing and emerged with only love and positivity. I can’t let another persons actions influence MY attitude. While I provided an exceptional opportunity for another person and it appeared their choice was to squander it. That is too bad. I can do nothing more than move forward with my life and wish them the best and perhaps a little enlightenment will come to each of us from the situation. Perhaps.
All the best from your wild, wonderful, working woman – Jasmine